I understand popa’s complaint, “Worst is when you get invited somewhere and then the people decide they are making early shabbos” to be against those who only tell him that they’re making early Shabbos after he’s already accepted the invitation.
He did kind of muddle the issue with his ill-conceived hashkafic tayna on early Shabbos, but I would hope and expect that he doesn’t really have a problem with someone making early Shabbos, as long as it’s not at his expense.
So let’s try an experiment: Popa, I plan on making early Shabbos next week. Any issues?