I saw a very sad story a few months ago, it was floating around, there was a woman who was a BT and slowly became Yeshivish. As she became Yeshivish many of the things that she liked before became assur (I dont mean things like Pork, I mean Stuff like Music and TV) she became more and more miserable and finally gave up being frum because she was so miserable. She asked why are these things prohibitted and she was told, that it wasnt done in our community (The Yeshivish community). Most likely had she been given some room she would have remained frum
Not every Chumra or Hashkafa is for everyone. What might be appropriate for you is not for someone else.