Ok. so I am a few posts behind.
But I noticed a lot of discussion about whether or not davening for someone else will “work” if you really have in mind for yourself to be answered, or whether a person should daven for themselves before/ after davening for a friend.
I have one recommendation:
Daven to Hashem with all your heart. Daven for yourslef. Daven for your friend. Dont worry about the order , don’t worry about the intentions.
Just Daven with heart felt emotions. Show Hashem your pain. Work on building a relationship with Hashem. Work on understanding that your Yeshua can only come from Him.
Did you ever see a little kid fall on the side walk and hurt themselves? Did you watch the way they cry to a parent? They don’t worry about what they are supposed to say, in what order. They just cry. They express their pain completely without holding anything back.
You are all children of Hashem in pain!
Daven to Him like a child to a father! Don’t hold back anything!
I really believe that this is how davening should be! So how do you understand Kol Hamispalel bead chavero.. ? I don’t think its an inyan limited to tefila. I think what its referring to is that you should feel the other persons pain. Not just daven for them, but feel their pain , a whole day, ever day. Then when you daven and you pour your heart out to Hashem, you will automatically daven for them.
Therefor, I beeve if someone is trying to reach thelevel of Kol Hamispalel… they should work on this in the context of feeling another persons pain. Not necessarily in the context of tefila, but , in the context of life.
However, if one is strictly looking to work on their tefila, I believe the key lies in what I mentioned before.