Dear Joseph:
Speak to Gateways YU Connect Saw You at Sinai, The well known Shadchanim out there in the yeshivish crowd, Invei Hagefen (Agudah) etc. and ask them about the number of girls in their database vs the numbers of boys. This is obviously not a scientific study as it’s possible that for some reason that no one has access to the many many boys and these people only know the girls. However the sheer magnitude of the discrepancy between the numbers is a good place to start.
I am very limitied in terms of the data that the CR will allow however the following will probable be allowed. As of this past succos there were 950 single boys in Lakewood. Take a guess Joseph how many of them were between the ages of 27-28. After your response I’ll give you the answer. I have the list in front of me.
Joseph, I HAVE spoken to the shadchanim, the schools etd. (I have at home a copy of a study school by school how many “older” girls are still unmarried. Clearly some of these will imy”h get married. But not all as the number of boys out there isn’t enough.)
Regarding my moral compass, I apologize for your tears but I gave the mods the phone numbers to check with Rav Shteinman’s Gabbai and Rav Elya Ber’s gabbai to verify their position on this issue. I am comfortable following their moral compass.