OK boys I’m not gonna get involved here in your petty little fight over facts, however, AZ, you yourself show why your “stats” mean nothing. Let me quote what you wrote –
“This is obviously not a scientific study as it’s possible that for some reason that no one has access to the many many boys and these people only know the girls. However the sheer magnitude of the discrepancy between the numbers is a good place to start.”
Definitely a good place to start, yup – to realize why your stats are messed up.
I’m a single Yeshiva guy – going out for a little while now. I’m not in a single “database” or “Shidduch list” none of “Gateways YU Connect Saw You at Sinai, The well known Shadchanim out there in the yeshivish crowd, Invei Hagefen (Agudah) etc” – nothing.
Oh, and did I mention, neither are the vast majority of my friends who are going out.
However, the girls that we go out with and are red to are mostly on these list and places. It’s more a list of single girls then it is a list of singles.
I don’t need every shnook shadchan to give me a call because they have the “perfect” shidduch on paper for me when they have no clue who I am. I have enough people doing that without the lists. But a girl, who it could be a year between dates, would love to get a call from anybody because it just maybe “the one”.
Point at the end of the day – the lists are nothing to go by.