Joseph- Thanks for linking to the posts. In the future though, I’d prefer if you could so kindly give precise maareh mekomos to save me the time of scrolling thru dozens of irrelevant comments.
As to the content: If you recall, the question here is about you telling a wife to ask her husband halachic shailahs as opposed to telling her to ask her rov.
I looked at the links you posted and found little that addresses the inyan directly. The sources you (under the names ‘shlishi,’ ‘avhaben,’ et al) brought do say that the wife has to honor her husband a lot. ein hacha nami. But no mekor says that a husband is a “rebbe” to his wife and children, as you put it earlier.
So unless I know for sure that a woman’s husband is a talmid chochom, I would not tell her to ask him a shailah. It’s a bad chazaka to assume all frum baalabatim can pasken. So, I’d advise her to either ask a rov or look it up herself if the shailah is uncomplicated (per rema, she should know it anyway!).