Lets try this……
1. Is their agreement on the following anecdotal observation:
The number of young women who have dated 5-10 years and are still single is far far greater than the number of young men who have dated 5-10 years and are still single.
(If you agree with this observation than you are agreeing with the definition of the “shidduch crisis” not necessarily the cause, simply it’s existence. And we can proceed to see if Age Gap exists and is the cause for this result.
If you deny this self evident observation than no use pursuing discussion of age gap since you don’t recognize the existence of the shidduch crisis in the first place)
The following assumes agreement to the above point:
2. Is their agreement on the following fact:
The number of boys in Orthodox Jewish Schools in North America in 1st grade is far greater than the # of boys in 4th grade. In a similar vein, the number of boys in in North America in Orthodox Jewish HS in 9th grade is far greater than the # of boys in 12th grade.
3. Is their agreement on the following fact:
The number of girls in Orthodox Jewish schools in North America in 1st grade is far greater than the # of girls in 4th grade. In a similar vein, the number of girls in North America in Orthodox Jewish HS in 9th grade is far greater than the # of girls in 12th grade.