zahavasdad- I do hear your point as I have younger sisters and they do come home telling me of such things, and they have begun to wonder what is halacha, chumra, etc.
It’s a fine line. But I didn’t think there would be any kids here. I assumed most people are adults here whom can reason and understand each to his own like my classmates.
Unfortunately the idea you described goes on in almost every bais yaakov these days.