I worked in pro audio for a number of years, so I can give my recommendations if you want them. If you don’t mind deviating from the earbud form-factor and going for an over-the-head setup, I love the sony MDR-7506 or MDR-V6. They’re made of metal. I’ve sat on them. They’ve been abused. They’ve sat in my car for months, 100 degree summers, sub-zero winters. They’ve been chewed-on and stretched-out by children. They don’t break, and they certainly won’t “fall apart” in your hands.
The stock earpads are ok, but I changed to real leather pads when I bought them. My current set of 7506’s is over 5 years old, and they have really no noticeable wear. They sound super clear. They don’t crackle. They don’t max out. The cord hasn’t started to break apart. They’re amazing. They isolate sound really well, so they’re equally great if you’re listening Jewish music in around Goyim or Goyishe music around frum-folk.
And they only come in black. If you tip your hat right, you can have both on at the same time. They also double as earmuffs in the winter.