Sparkly -“health – maybe they met when they were teens and had no idea what they were doing. but im referring to the ones who met at a normal age and got married at a normal age”
Obviously you don’t know what the normal age is & that’s why you started a topic on that!
Btw, Chassidim get married when they’re teen-agers.
And the marriage works out!
Look, you obviously need a mentor. If you can’t use your parents, find a teacher or Rabbi to help you!