So, myfriend, when a man and woman get married the woman becomes less equal to the man?
A husband has the role of authority in marriage and the wife is submissive. However, as I said before, in the correct hashkafic framework, the husband and wife have to know when the husband exerts his authority and when there has to be a compromise when the wife feels that she should be the knegdo, a help for the husband by going against or enlightening him to in the correct approach in a situation.
Rabbi Miller zt”l explained the differences in marital roles. He did not say that a wife is less than equal to a husband, rather they have different roles in the marriage as a captain and first mate. In real life a captain is not superior as a human being than a first mate, nor is the first mate’s job less vital for a succesful voyage . I think the analogy of a captain and first mate is an exellent one for if the captain becomes incapacitated and cannot steer the ship the first mate takes over. So too in a marriage, if the husband’s authority becomes incapacited for whatever reason, wrong decision, etc. the wife takes over and becomes the negdo in the marriage so that she can be the ezer.