clearheaded, earlier in the thread you said you are submissive to your husband’s authority, so I don’t see that we disagree much in practice.
I definitely am submissive to my husband. And I’m also assertive, in an ezer k’negdo way, when I need to be as well.
I’m sure we don’t disagree in practice as in a healthy marriage a man is the authority, a woman is submissive and sometimes there need to be compromises. I would expect a husband and wife in a healthy marriage to have the common sense to know when the wife needs to be submissive and when there needs to be a compromise.