“btw, what do they do on this “yom zikaron”? Do they learn Mishnayos? Make a sium Hashas? At least some “tikun”?”
It was a chesed from Hashem that we were granted the knowledge of being Frum:
Let us take upon something to help our Jewish brothers and sisters.I suggest that it would be much more constructive as it really is pas nisht to sully the memories of people who die Al kiddush Hashem,whom the vast majority cannot be taken to task for not having a Torah true lifestyle.
For better or worse the soldiers are there to defend us and put their lives on the line defending even the most anti zionistic charedie so he can live in Meah Shearim. Saying a Kapitel Tehillim in their memory today or any day, or in the zechus that Hashem grants continued Shmira has nothing to do with the Medina.
If you would like change, or their observance is not up to par please stop taking to task instead say tehillim, do more mitzvos have extra Kavana in shemone Esrei when referencing teshuva es tzemach dovid ata chonen etc.. be mikarev an Israeli to help bring about change.
Heart felt pleas can change the situation that Hashem should along with OUR EFFORTS help bnei Yisrael in Eretz yisrael and America to choose the right path.
Sadly,much of their anti-frum sentiment is our own fault, if only we would be dan lekaf zechus and be mekarev properly.It is a tremendous Bracha to be fully aware of the beauty of Yiddishkeit,and it is a chesed from Hashem.Imagine if chasvishalom we were not frum would hearing constant criticisms help us want to be frum?
We all know Devarim hayotzim min halev, nichnasim el halev. We can easily reach the hearts of our brothers and in turn inspire the feelings of Rachmonus from Hashem to bring the full Geula if we all try.