apushatayid – so you hang out with the other gender? its not a psak to not hang out with the other gender most rabbis unless their mo say its not okay to hang out with the other gender. she might be embarrassed to ask her mother for advice.
lilmod ulelamaid – they can also be embarrassed to ask. it wasnt easy for me to find my rav since at first i thought he was too mo for me but then i decided to go to his speech and thats how he became my rav.
Health – i found my rav since his my parents rav and then i started going to his speeches.
Syag Lchochma – you are right! this world is scary:(