Person1:
Firstly, a warm hello. For an Israeli, your English is impeccable. Thanks for a good question, well phrased. Personally, I certainly understand where you’re coming from, and not knowing you personally I would be hesitant to make any blanket judgement.
But I know of successful shidduchim where one partner is far louder than the other. Indeed, in many cases the more introverted, thoughtful nature of one perfectly matches and complements the ‘louder’ nature of the other, and vice versa. There have also been plenty of instances where very extroverted people go out, and have nothing to say to each other. The process is to find a bashert, and being loud or quiet is often immaterial.