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Lilmod Ulelamaid
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DY and PBA: That is exactly why resumes of older single girls often write the age instead of the birthdate. I think this is fair because older single girls have a big disadvantage when it comes to age, and boys have ridiculous prejudices when it comes to age. These prejudices help neither them nor the girls they could be going out with, since many of these boys keep getting older and older and older without getting married. It has happened many times that a guy went out with a girl because he thought she was younger than she was (or he didn’t meet her through a shadchan so he didn’t know her age) and ended up liking her. Once he found out her age, he didn’t care about it anymore.

I am NOT recommending that anyone lie about his/her age. It is dishonest and a terrible start to a relationship that may end as soon as the guy/girl realizes you lied to him/her. What I am saying is that sometimes it’s better if the girl’s age is not the very FIRST thing he knows about her. He will call her references so he will probably find out her age before he goes out with her anyhow, but at least he will have had a chance to read her resume objectively first and maybe hear how wonderful she is before he verifies her age.