ABS-SA: Does someone’s frumkeit/yiddishkeit ensure a better marriage than a nonfrum person?
What if someone finds a nonfrum Jew with great middos and chemistry?
I am so torn. The Lubvitcher Rebbe said that having mismatched Torah values is a relationship to avoid. Meanwhile Breslev says that one partner can bring up the other, sometimes at least. However not every partner appreciates that pressure to change, especially if he or she is not feeling it at heart.
Technically bashert sounds like what you make of it