lilmod ulelamaid: I’m technically on a lower level and do not want to be 100%. Dating someone more frum didn’t work out. I don’t know who is on my level; I am on a mixed derech.
Honestly the closest match is secular/nonfrum, but that is scary and feels too removed for me. Maybe I am just not frum and need to accept it. But there is always room for growth so I do not want to put a name to my Jewishness today.
Plus if there is this soulmate thing, and even if there was more than one person, doesn’t Hashem give us the person who we merit based on our merits? Can I build middos merits? Or does it only relate to Torah? Or davening to change a decry?
Do I need to daven for a changed soulmate if I have yet to know who that is? What if a rebbe told someone that this person was my soulmate, and then later said to move on and Hashem can change it? Do I need to daven for another person or is that a given?
~Thank you