LU -“That is more likely with a widower who already has kids, and while he would be happy to have more kids, might also be okay with the possibility of not having more.”
This makes no sense, because you could apply the same thing to a divorced guy!
“But I can’t go out with guys who don’t want to go out with me, and many guys won’t go out with girls over a certain age because they assume they might not be able to have kids anymore”
These assumptions make no sense. Either a person can have kids or they can’t. Any woman can be tested if they are still able to have children. I personally would go out with s/o my age, if they can prove they can have children!