WTP -“It may be reality, but it is still a problem- Yes the guy has a chiyuv to have children, but for some reason he did not feel that a pressing enough reason to get married all these years..”
Why don’t you Dan the guys L’caf Zecus? Maybe it wasn’t his fault that he didn’t get married? A lot of guys have problems getting dates because of people speaking bad!
“In terms of testing- without going into inappropriate content, fertility is quite complicated, depends on lots of factors, often in context of the couple, and there are B”H many solutions available today that can help what would otherwise seem hopeless.”
I wasn’t talking about people with medical issues, but with the normal biology. At a certain time in a woman’s life, they usually can’t have any more kids.
“It would be a gross violation of tznius if this was asked before marriage. Plenty of younger women also have issues- should this then be a common requirement on a shidduch resume?”
It would not! As a matter of fact, a guy or girl should tell the Shadchim if they have medical issues, especially if they know it could affect their ability to have children!