One thing is certain. Women should be offering their opinions on what Bochurim should be doing Bein H’Zamnin. I was reading a prominent women’s magazine discussing the topic of Bein H’Zmanin and…..Good thing the Roshey Yeshivos aren’t consulting women about what Bochrim should be doing Bein Hzmanin.
I was a bochur twenty five years ago and the claim that magazine made that 25 years ago even the top bochurim from the top Yeshivos worked during Bein H’zmanin is pure baloney. There were some boucrim who worked a counselors or learning rebbeim and there were some who hocked around in offices making minor money and having a great time with friends. But they were the minority and they weren’t doing it out the sense of obligation this magazine was suggesting.