Joseph…….
In our family it is tradition that when the girl receives her diamond engagement ring, the chosson receives a gold watch.
It is not our responsibility to buy shas, seforim, car or house. Our daughter (not us) bought him a talis. Other 2 girls are not married yet.
We have 3 married children B”H and all were able to buy their own homes. This is not to say that Mrs. CTL may not have dipped into her knippel and I might have paid a few of the costs.
As for the Tuxedo…yes I did take my future SIL to my tailor and order him a few suits, evening wear and a dozen shirts custom made.
As of their wedding this past April, SIL works in my law firm and he must embody the business image I have built over the years.