No silver ataro? Mamish ah shanda!
I know you’re joking, but I feel the need to point this out:
Gifts are just that… gifts – freely given and without obligation.
My in-laws got me a tallis (and, yes, with an atara), but if they didn’t, that would have been fine and well too. They have also given me other gifts over the years, and again, if they had not, I would have been fine with that too. No one “owes” anyone a gift (if they do, it’s not a gift). I didn’t marry my wife because of any gifts that they “owed me” or “were expected.” If they did not give me anything, I would have had no complaints whatsoever.
The Wolf