I’m normally not one to give my advice being that I feel I’m not worthy and who would wanna listen to me but on this topic I can promise you I know what I’m talking about. There was this girl who to put it mildly ruined my name and basically my life a few years ago she told people alot of lies about me ,that I hung out with the wrong people etc. And basicly my camp life and school life were destroyed and no one wanted to talk to me because they thought I was bad.And eventually I started thinking no one will believe me anyways and i started doing the very things she said about me if not worse.(eventually I worked hard and Baruch hashem things only got better and i had alot of friends)for years I wished something bad happened to her that she should suffer the same way i did that she should feel what lonliness and depression feels like and then one day i came to a scary conclusion I realized that the only way for me to have closure is to let go and forgive i cant say that it was easy i didnt even know if i had to she made me get kicked out of places and i couldnt get summer jobs because of it but sat down on my bed and started writing about everything all my feelings I was crying but ya know what after that I didn’t send it to her (which technically I could have.I just threw it away and with that all my anger went away (she doesn’t believe she did any thing wrong before i forgave her I trued being mature …at some point I called her to talk things through and she said that I owe her an apology I had nothing to do with her prior to the rumors she made up but yet I still asked her for forgiveness and she said no….I plain hung up the phone on her…I was not gonna get angry) so basically my humble advice to u is just do what it takes to forgive you can write you can talk or you can just think and you will feel like the weight of the world is off your shoulders love, sadgirlygirl
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