Sparkly:
” Meno – im NOT married but when i do get married its up to my husband if i cover my hair or not. so for example right now i have 2 shidduchim with 2 wonderful guys b’h so 1 wants me to cover my hair the other doesnt so if either shidduch works out its up to them NOT me.”
Sparkly, according to halacha, it is up to you, not your husband. You have the bechira to choose your husband, and the responsibility to choose a husband who will not pressure you to stop keeping halacha. If you do end up marrying such a person, it is still in your hands to keep halacha.
I have a friend whose cousin covers her hair even though her husband tells her every day how ugly she looks (can’t even imagine how much schar she will get for covering her hair under those circumstances!), but I wouldn’t advise marrying someone like that l’chatchila (at the time she got married, she thought that covering your hair was a chumra so she didn’t start covering her hair until many years later when she found out it was an actual halacha).