Happygirlygirl: I just realized that you have no idea who I am, so you are probably thinking, “why should I care what LU has to say on the topic?” I realize that you don’t know who I am and I am reluctant to reveal my identity or even give over too many facts about myself, but I will just tell you that I have been teaching halacha and hashkafa in seminaries for many years, so I am reasonably qualified to answer a question like this.
But again, I will try to speak to a Rav about it when I have a chance.