ZD:”I am 100% opposed to smoking , Ive never smoked, refuse to go near people who smoke and think its a disgusting habit, but this does touch into a bigger issue, you cant really ban everything. it just doesnt work. The more things you assur, the more likely you will have people committing averiahs”
well said. I think it also explains why my friend and her husband (parents of the above boy) “allowed” him to smoke, and even bought the cigarettes for him (for those who wanted to know where the money came from). I think that his father was acting out of his educational philosophies of not banning everything and making things into issues. The boy knows that his father himself doesn’t smoke and that it’s not a good thing to do, and therefore, he never had a “hava mina” to continue smoking into adulthood, but he needed to be a “teenager” to some extent.
His father realized that, and realized that it was better that he not feel like it was something he had to do behind his parents’ backs. Once a kid starts feeling like he has to do things behind his parents’ backs – that’s when you can start to have a serious problem on your hands.