“so when u tell a kid im ok if u listen to goyish music or do x y and z they will really know deep down ur lying 2 them”
It’s not that you’re ok with what they’re doing, its that despite the fact that they are doing something you don’t approve of, you still love them.
“B:validate him for real and including is empathize with him and just try to be a friend not a parent yes thats a real concept ur kid should have open relationship with u err on the side of being 2 friendly over the side of being fearful(though a little bit is oviously important”
yep