“Soliek-How can I deal with his anger when it sems like everything makes him angry?”
I don’t know because I don’t know the specifics of what you’re dealing with.
“even to the point of considering getting myself help if you hadn’t all reached out as you did.”
Not sure what you meant, but i would suggest that you speak with a therapist about all of this. We can just offer you broad advice here, but if you need help with specifics you need to talk to professionals.