Reply To: Going off the Derech

He did have one friend in the Yeshiva, but something happened (I don’t know what), and unfortunately he broke off all kesher with him. When I tried to inquire what happened between them, he just said the boy is a liar and he can’t be friends with a liar. He was the strongest friend he had, and had a good influence on him, so this was quite unfortunate. He has a more superficial kesher with the other kids in his class.

My son is very sensitive and private, so it’s hard to reach him, let alone help him.

It seems that the girl you started talking to filled a need, and once that need was met, you were able to tap into your own strengths and let it go, making you free to pursue more appropriate supports.

There was a time, way back when I used to beg my son not to start listening to all the secular music. I told him it will be hard to let it go. But he insisted that it will have no affect on him. But it’s so obvious that he’s not the same kid, and now he cannot only not let it go, but doesn’t want to let it go. Someone posted a while back about surprising him and perhaps making a positive comment about the music instead of putting it down or forbidding it. But the music today is really horrible, with curses, that I was truly shocked to hear what he’s listening to