“Tell me msseeker, if someone chas v’shalom has a child with cancer, do they kick the child out or put them away in an institution?”
No, but if someone chas v’shalom has a child with a contagious fatal illness, they put them in quarantine with a bleeding heart in order to save their other kids.
WOW, I understand your point. Just be on guard, talk to your kids a lot and listen to them closely. Keep the atmosphere happy, as difficult as it is. If your son will see what he misses by rejecting our way of life, he might reconsider. Much hatzlacha.