Reply To: Going off the Derech

daniela-I’m not sure I understand what you mean. If it’s not rebellion, what is it exactly?

I see it as rebellion bc he is saying “I don’t want to be Haredi”, and sometimes he says he doesn’t want to be religious. Initially he rejected a bunch of things, ie tefillah, tsitsit, mitsvos, learning, etc but I’m hoping, he’ll find his own middle ground. My concern, and I’ve told him this, is that in order to really make a choice, you have to expose yourself to both sides, not just the chevra/videos/music he’s listening to. But also learning Torah, Yeshiva etc. But he’s still struggling.

The friend told us that he didn’t think my son wants to really be with that chevra, but my son very much likes the music, and now seems to be addicted to it. He has no desire to break away from the music, and has said that even if he decides to stay religious, he still wants to see videos and listen to this music.