Daniela and evryone else..
I did not follow the entire thread but it is quite obvious that you do not have any experience with these kind of teenagers..
community and neighbors for some reason dont help they have suggestions that are not always realistic.. the teeenager has to want to go to talk to these people. they dont do ANYTHING that a parent tells them to thinking its some kind of trap to make him frum.
I hava a lot more to write bec I am going thru this myself ( and mine is gold next to other sons I am hearing about)
write or wrong- the only thing I can suggest right now bec its erev yom tov make sure he knows he has a listening ear. and u are ther for him. When he does speak listen and hear what he is saying. They say a lot of things between the lines that you will have to remember for the future..
Be happy your son tells you he wont be home.. mine just never came home.. not for the se’uda and not at night.. which was usually at 4am when he did come home..
when he is home treat him as natural as u do your other children.
A Freilichen Lichtigen Yom Tov!