someone told me a story recently, they were in Gateshead kollel for hakaphos on simchas torah and rb kaufman z”l banged out on the bimah after the third hakafah that Rb Matisyahu was going to speak. He said that kol hamispallel be’ad chaveiroh ve’hu tzarich le’oso davar hu ne’eneh techilah – if someone cries for someone else with a child going through a difficult period then Hashem will answer them first
