I had the same thing.. my daughter blames me as well for being chassidish. my son is tryng to convince us to change all the boys yeshivas.. but we are chassidish..
I accept my son the way he is.. I would call it parve.
but he has to understand I am not changing the entire ‘mehus’ of my family because he said so.
I am blaming some melamdim and RY as well. and I definitely agree they wronged him. They say its the kid because they treat everyone equally and not all turned out this way..
They did not want to understand that each kid is created differently.
When I explained what this child was about and perhaps a way to ‘treat’ him so he may succeed, the answer was this is not our policy and all fell on deaf ears!
I warned my husband. At a certain age these kids grow wings and they fly.. How right I was!