ok, If I’m getting this correct. You said in the beginning he was going away from yiddishkeit. Then, you mentioned he just doesn’t wear tzitzis anymore, and he got rid of the black hat. Now, you say he is being mechalel shabbos. First of all, to stand up for the others, including myself who have given their truthful, heartfelt stories to you, YOUR story seems to change every time I read this thread. Ok, so he wasn’t raised in a less-charedi atmosphere.
And you had mentioned he hadn’t learned all bein hazmanim long.
He’s a teenager – they do that. Just HOW BAD IS THIS SITUATION?
Don’t mean to sound rude, but it sounds like you’re over exaggerating the whole situation a bit. Does he not want to go back to the same yeshiva or does he totally want to be a drop out?
Would having him attend a non-religious high school be better for him? How about a place which helps kids that are going off the derech?
ALL IN ALL – people have different views of what OTD is exactly, and I think you’re pushing the story way over to what it is exactly to hear other opinions.
please delete this thread and start over with the whole story upfront – be truthful about it. Discuss openly what you have already tried with him. And what it is he is exactly doing- to make you think he is going off the derech!
I’m sorry for sounding rude, but your story just doesn’t add up.