mom12: “my son is also in the alcohol mishigaas he admits that it makes him feel ‘better’ he doesnt ‘have’ all those issues for the hour or so.”
An addiction begins when a person realizes that something external can make him feel better. Even if he’s not actually getting drunk, he is setting on a dangerous path toward substance reliance. Also, alcohol is physically addictive while marijuana is not.
“He started asking questions about marijuana.. he is just ‘curious’..I’m NERVOUS. I told him it would really upset me if he started smokng. who knows if he will listen to me.”
You should do some research on these subjects instead of just relying on hearsay. You cannot preach about the unknown. Marijuana is not what you need be afraid of but it’s what they call a gateway drug; that once a person does marijuana they are more open to trying other, more harmful, substances. And a lot more teenagers do smoke marijuana than you think…
You say he is curious. The fear is that it frequently does not stop at marijuana. I’m going to bet that he does not know nor care about the dangers of marijuana. If it really is curiosity, what’s to say he won’t try others because of the same curiosity.
I stress again: DO RESEARCH! The drug speech worked for me, but only because my ‘greasy’, yeshivish dad was able to speak my language and came to me with actual facts and logic. I strongly suggest you do a lot of reading up and talking to professionals and only afterward you have something concrete to say, should you have a heart to heart with him. At least if he’s going to make dumb choices, he should know what he’s setting himself up for.