Reply To: Going off the Derech

mom12-I spoke to a psychologist who told me that sometimes a stronger approach does work, it depends upon the nature of the child. In general, the way to go is to be accepting, and let the child find his own way, especially if he is controlling and strong-willed. But he has seen the other way work too in some cases.

I think it’s so important to keep your husband and son talking. As mothers, we naturally do this, but if the kids have a strong connection to both parents, it seems like it would be doubly hard for kids to do something that would be hurtful to both parents.