Reply To: Going off the Derech

here to help- I agree that infusing our kids with healthy self esteem works better than trying to control our kids. But how does this method give them self esteem? I see it as giving them artificial victory, not genuine self esteem. Self esteem comes from feeling worthy, valuable and important. And I’m afraid that this method may devalue us as parents in the eyes of the other children.

Also, how do we handle the fact that he sleeps all day, and stays out all night/plays with computer/watches movies in his room until dawn, perpetuating this cycle that is becoming almost impossible to break? And is it okay to bring anything he wants into the home against our wishes ie android, computer, dog?