Reply To: Going off the Derech

Brooklineborn-you have to ask the mods. I am more than happy to email them the manual, however it’s a big file, and for some reason, it wouldn’t go through when I tried to email it to a friend. You could ask the mods for Avi Fishoff’s email address (they will email it to you directly) and ask him to send you the file.

Aries2756-I don’t think that good sense will reach him at this point, even by mentioning the association between tattood numbers and tattoos. He just doesn’t care. As far as yeshiva goes, he’s done nothing to follow through. He says he’s going with his friends to this open yeshiva that I mentioned, and asked us if we will pay for him to go there. Truthfully, I told him that if he were serious about learning, a profession, or anything, then that would be fine. But I wasn’t interested in paying for him to ‘have an apt’ with his friends somewhere, so that he can go out partying, and stay out all night, away from his parents. My husband is ready to call the ‘Revacha” in Israel, and let them take over. But after speaking these last couple of weeks with Avi Fishoff, I’m torn between being the ‘supportive, accepting, “you can do anything you want if it makes you happy” kind of mother, and doing something more proactive that will force (yes! I said the bad word ‘force’) him to be in some program.

If there are any “Twisted Parenting” alumni reading this, please tell me your opinion.