Reply To: Going off the Derech

aries2756-I’m glad to see you are still following this thread. Please give your opinion. I just hung up on my son. It’s after 8am, and he hasn’t been home since yesterday afternoon! I called one of his friends’ cell phones to see where he is, and my son just called me back. I asked where he is, and all he said was that he’s at a friend’s house. He wouldn’t tell me where he is, or which friend. So I didn’t feel the need to continue the conversation, and I hung up on him. Right now, I have so much anger toward him. I don’t feel we can continue with Twisted Parenting bc it’s just making fools of us, not to mention that we need to spend endless amounts of money on him to buy him ‘gifts’ to make him happy. My second son keeps asking where he is, and when he sees his brother never slept home, he suddenly ends up not going to tefillah either. I am completely beside myself. My husband is blaming me that things are getting worse bc he feels that we weren’t strong enough, that our reaction was too accepting and now he’s just taking advantage. What on earth should I do???