Been there – done that
How do I handle everyone’s comments to me in Shul about my son?
1. work on your own feelings. Convince yourself and your husband that what people say or think is irrelevant. What matters is your son’s future.
2. prepare some stock phrases, and have your other kids memorize them as well. Example: Yanky is having some issues, and we are dealing with them. period. do not say any more than that.
3. Realize that everyone has an opinion, always! Ignore them. One will tell you that she always knew that you were too strict. Another will say that he is OTD because you did not set limits. Or because you did not provide enough health foods.
4. Embarrassment (which you surely will face) is a Kaporo for many things. Look at it that way. Other people face sickness, loss of parnosso, many tzoros. You are faced with embarrassment.
May Hashem help your child, and all children, to return.
Been There with my child.