Reply To: Going off the Derech

Every time it looks like things might be getting better, we take a turn for the worse. My son told us he is getting an earring, and my husband forgot to act ‘twisted’. He got so upset, and basically ‘forbid’ him from doing it. Now I’m afraid that it’s almost a guarrantee that he WILL do it. The twisted approach is to offer no resistance, and even buy him the earring! But what is the alternative? How can we influence him not to do it? Is it possible?