Reply To: Going off the Derech

aries2756=Thanks for the suggestion. Do you think I have to do this collectively, or should I sit with each kid individually, bc each child has a different level of understanding? We are already a little worried about how his behavior will impact on the chag. He stays out all night, and outwardly defies all our house rules, not to mention he’s mechalel Shabbos. And it’s not like he’s in some unknown location, he’s right here in our own neighborhood. I’m not sure if that’s good or bad. In some ways, I prefer that he’s close to the house instead of in some distant city in Israel. However, how should I behave when I pass right by him and 10 or so of his chevra on my way to food shopping? Do I wave hello? ignore him? pretend we don’t know eachother? What if he’ll be outside our shul on RH? And what exactly should I tell the kids, their brother is lost, daven for him?