WOW
I hope the mods allow this, but this might be important, you dont have to answer publically. But does you son like girls?
I am not saying every guy who wears an earing and wants to wear jewerly is “different”, but you need to think about it and somehow broach the question without being judgemental like saying the torah says its an abomination. I have heard of many people who went OTD for this reason.