Ana Mia is it really necessary to pick the scab off the wound? What is the point of this psych ping pong? The point of this post was to give chizuk to the op not to prove how smart or right we are or can be. I got the point of your post, it was sharp, unfortunately it was hurtful to the op so it wasn’t received in the manner that you had hoped. Instead of taking a step back and realizing that the op is not in a matzav to accept your style, you choose to be offended and fight for the right to be right. So be right. How does that help? Does it make you feel better that you are right? Does it help the op or her situation or how she handles her pain if you are right?
A shoemaker does not make the best pair of shoes for himself and a doctor should never try to heal himself. Throwing the situation back into the op’s face because she has a background in psychology is just plain counter productive. This whole exchange is counter productive . I don’t believe that it was your intention to take your conversation with the op down this path, so maybe it is time to step back and re-evaluate.