All of you, please understand that there are a lot of trolls on this website so NO PERSONAL information should ever be posted, not even your age and not even your school or what grade your in.
The names of some very helpful individuals were already discussed here and they can direct you to excellent sources of help. Rabbi Wallerstein has an excellent female therapist on his staff. Rebbetzin Esther Jungreis works with both boys and girls who have questions, you can google her or get her email address through the Jewish Press. I am very happy that all of you have been brave enough to ask for help and have realized that you do have ways and means to ask for help instead of trying to shoulder the burdens of issues that are way out of your league on your own.
Purplicious, you can’t control what others do only what you do. The only thing you can do if your friend chooses NOT to get help is to let him know that you care about him and his situation really frightens you. If you doesn’t recognize how serious his situation is and he doesn’t choose to get help on his own, then you will have to let someone YOU trust know about it because “Kol Yisroel areivim zeh la zeh. And he is too important a human being to allow to fall apart or die because of issues and problems that he can’t handle on his own and because he either doesn’t have anyone to turn to or doesn’t realize that he can find someone that he can turn to.”
No one knows who Hashem will choose to be a sheliach for another person. Anyone can be a shadchan for a couple no matter how old they are, and anyone can save another person’s life no matter how old they are, either by dialing Hatzola in an emergency or putting pressure on an open wound, or by calming a person down until help arrives, or in any number of ways; even by telling a trusted individual that you fear for someone’s life. Hashem chooses people for different reasons.
I don’t want YOU to feel guilty because YOU are put in a difficult position here. What is more important saving your friend’s life or keeping a confidence? It is unfair of your friend to put you in that position. At some point we have to make a choice and tell a person “I care too much to stand by you and watch you kill yourself, you are way too important to allow whatever happened to you or whatever is bothering you to kill you. There is an answer and/or a solution for whatever is happening to you and if you were MY friend you wouldn’t put me through this. You would allow me to find someone to help you and not make me fear for your life.”
So if I had a close relationship with MY parents even though my friend didn’t have a close relationship with his, or if not with my parents, with my aunt, or with the Rav of my shul, or a particular teacher or neighbor, I would tell them what I was going through and ask them to help me and take this burden off my shoulders because Ms. Purple, YOU DON’T deserve to worry like this, nor to think in any way, shape or form, if your friend were to go sour that you have any achrius in that. You are NOT responsible for his choices only yours. So you can let him know that you don’t want that kind of responsibility and if he doesn’t want to make the right choices for himself, at the very least you can make the right choices for yourself. Because you are only a kid yourself and the responsibility he is putting on your shoulders and your heart is way too much for a kid to handle or live with for the rest of her life.