Reply To: Going off the Derech

adams-you say my feelings are getting in the way of helping him. Which feelings, exactly, are you referring to?

I don’t really agree with your comments, bc the insinuation is that I could actually help him, if I had the right feelings, that it’s all up to me. I actually don’t think I can help him at all, no matter what my feelings are. He is distant, non communicative, angry and almost never home. He has pushed me and my husband out of his life. He hates the Haredim, and I am one of them. I am not forcing yiddishkeit on him, and in fact, never say anything to him about being mechalel Shabbos etc. That, I truly believe, is between him and Hashem. The only time it becomes an issue is if he is openly mechalel Shabbos in my home, around my other children. My agony is in seeing him destroy his life and his potential as a person, not as a religious Jew. Religion is no longer the main issue, and hasn’t been for some time. I have come to terms with the fact that he may never be religious again, but at this point, I’m just hoping he’ll mature and stabilize, and live a healthy, ‘normal’ life.