Sparkly: “lilmod ulelamaid – if you gave someone a therapist to talk to theyd be mad with you.”
That was exactly my point!
I wouldn’t recommend NCSY if she’s not talking to boys and she’s from a background where that’s unacceptable. A certain Rav who used to work in NCSY compared it to the Para Aduma – it’s metaher the temaim and metamei the tehorim.
While they do great things and can be great for some people, they can be bad others. This girl does not sound like a good candidate for NCSY.
I am sure that Lakewood has programs for girls like her. I will look into bli neder and get back to you.