The Jewish attitude is that marriage is about having a relationship with someone. When Frum women want to get divorced, it is usually because they don’t have a relationship, and their husbands don’t want to have a relationship, and that is not a Jewish marriage. This can also work the other way, but it is probably more common this way, and in any case, that is the topic under discussion.
If a husband sees that his wife is upset by the way he treats her, the Jewish way is to discuss it with her, not to tell her that he has a right to treat her however he wants and she has to stay married to him.